Relationships can be fragile, so it is best to consider some things when searching for one. There are a couple of things I like to keep in mind when considering someone for a relationship.
Trust: Can you trust them? Trust is vital for any relationship. Trust should be earned rather than given blindly.
Friendship: Build a friendship first. It allows enough time to develop a more valid opinion of that person.
Communication: Are you able to communicate? I have difficulty trying to get my word across. The wrong string of words can lead to misunderstandings and arguments, and it has many times before. It is important to find someone who can understand your speech habits or is willing to be patient enough to work with you.
Time together: Will you be able to make time for each other? Between school and work, it is hard to make time for my relationship. Something as simple as watching a movie or playing a game together for an hour can be just enough to lower tension from a hard day. Squeeze in that time together into your schedule.
Compromise: In a relationship you need to compromise. My significant other likes survival games, but I do not have an interest in them. What I will do is still watch him play and listen as he describes his strategies. You are not going to share all the same interests with your significant other, but you can find ways to enjoy time together through a compromise.
Millennials have watched the deterioration of relationships with the sky-rocketing divorce rates. When considering a relationship, there are definitely important factors to consider.
Communication may seem over exaggerated but communication is one of the most importation parts of a relationship. To quote the King of Rock and Roll, “communication is part of our problem, baby, and that’s why I’m a telling you.” A good percentage of breakups today could easily be avoided if the two sides communicated, discussed the problem and found a solution together.
Interests are incredibly important in relationships. I am not saying both parties need to be interested in all the same things to have a successful relationship, but it should be given that it helps if there are a few things that you both enjoy doing. Things such as going to see live theater or going to the park. Maybe even something as simple as cats. Small things like this can really help early on in a relationship and help build a foundation for a successful relationship.
Most people do not pay much attention to religion when it comes to someone that you are dating, even though it may impact your relationship more than anything else. In Christianity, for example, a man is supposed to be the spiritual leader of the household. If one of you is a Christian and the other is not, it could potentially be draining on your relationship.
Friendship is an obvious aspect that is commonly overlooked. Starting a relationship with a friendship can help build a longer lasting, more supportive relationship. This also gives you the added benefit of knowing some of each other’s idiosyncrasies, which helps in the long run.
Loyalty might seem like an odd one because many people do not associate the word loyalty with relationships. Loyalty does not seem very common anymore. Especially with relationships today. It is all too common for a person to be casually dating multiple people at one time. This could possibly create problems in who that person becomes loyal to, if they are loyal to anyone at all.